How to go to an art museum

How to go to an art museum

Sometimes it surprises people who know me to hear that I like to do a lot of activities by myself, given that I seem an awful lot like a full-on “extravert with a capital E.” In fact, I actually consider myself one of those people who walks the line between extraversion and introversion. Sure, I can talk to anyone, I adore public speaking, and I’m outgoing and lively in social and business atmospheres. I’m a hardcore networker, and I’m pretty fun and talkative (and have been since birth). From the outside, I am the poster child of extraversion. I mean – I was an opera singer, for crying out loud! How much more extraverted does it get than screaming your guts out onstage in front of hundreds of people for 3 hours straight?

The truth is, while I enjoy my extraverted life, quiet time alone is incredibly important to me. I prefer to work in quiet places, alone (okay, with my dog). Even when I was singing, while I did love rehearsal with my colleagues and of course enjoyed performing, my most beloved time was alone in the practice room. And beyond working time, no matter what season of my life I’ve been in, I’ve needed a lot of time by myself or in small, intimate groups to focus and recharge. Otherwise, my extraverted side turns into my “bitchy with a capital B” side…

I used to travel a fair deal by myself when I was training to be an opera singer. Auditions, gigs, and training are rarely in your own city unless you live in New York, so I was always staying in random Expedia hotels and dealing with people and stress and stimulation overwhelm. I was also always killing time between lessons or concerts or whatever, which meant I was in the perfect position for my favourite solo activity of all time: going to a museum.

It’s the perfect self-date, especially while travelling, but also in your own city. It takes however much time you want it to. You can usually also eat there (since most museums have a café or even a fancy restaurant). You can take really cute Instagram pics. Most of all, you can have a beautiful, calm few hours all to yourself, where you see incredible works of art, pieces that might stretch your thinking, and celebrated creations by your fellow humans. 

So how do you do it?

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Taking in art is a spiritual practice

Taking in art is a spiritual practice

Ohhh my gosh, you guys, perhaps my favourite topic ever: art as spiritual practice.

I heard an interview with one of the co-founders of SoulCycle the other day, and one of the things she talked about was creating a safe space for people to use exercise as part of their spiritual practice. She described how exercise has always been a meditative practice for her, and that as an anxious, type-A hustler, she needed an active way to calm her brain and get into an uplifting higher state, and for her, the answer was always exercise.

I totally get it.

Full disclosure: I am also extremely type-A. I like to say I have two speeds: Netflix-and-coma and On Fi-yuhhhh. As a former colleague once said, when I shifted gears in a work emergency, “A Kayleigh in motion is a beautiful thing.” It really is my natural set point to (as we say back home in Saskatchewan) “frickin’ give ‘er.”

But, over the past few years (and through two very painful but incredibly instructive rounds of full-on burnout), I’ve learned to love meditation. I meditate every morning before I do anything else (okay, I have coffee first, obviously), and it’s made a huge difference in my happiness and wellbeing. However, after that first infusion of calm, sometimes I need a little reset later on in the day, and it’s really hard for me to hit the breaks completely and find it again. And, I only meditate for about 15 minutes, and while this is great for daily maintenance, it isn’t always enough for deep refreshment, searching, or discovery.

Cue: active meditative spiritual practices.

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How do I pick classical music to listen to?

How do I pick classical music to listen to?

The number one thing people ask me when I explain that my mission is to bring people back to the fine arts is something along the lines of, “great, but where do I start?”. And very often, these conversations include a story about “trying to listen to classical music.”

Oof! Nothing breaks my heart like a story about trying to like art and failing/not continuing/giving up on it despite being interested/liking what you heard/saw. THAT IS THE SYSTEM FAILING YOU!

So let’s talk about listening to classical music and the age-old “where do I even start?” question. Let me help you help yourself, friend. 

Here are a few reasons you don’t know how to pick classical music to listen to, and the answer to your problem. You’re welcome in advance… 

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