To two young ladies who texted through an entire symphony concert

To two young ladies who texted through an entire symphony concert

Ladies,

Look. We’ve all been there. We’ve all been somewhere we didn’t necessarily want to be. We’ve all been young and stupid and too smart-assy for our own good. We’ve all been young rebels who laugh at how idiotic everything is. We’ve all felt uncomfortable somewhere and, rather than explore that discomfort, we have chosen to protect ourselves by trying to look aloof. Especially as young people. We’ve all been there.

I know I looked lame last night when I kept staring at you, slack-jawed in amazement at your total disregard for your surroundings. I know I must have seemed as old as the actual old lady sitting in front of me who was incredibly distracted by the light from your screens, the tap tap tap of your manicured nails as you texted, and your painfully audible “whispers” filled with eyeroll-worthy content. I know I must have seemed just as uncool as the moms who had brought a large group of little girls and boys to what might have been their first symphony concert, who unfortunately had to put up with you sitting behind them. Yup, I might seem like all of those things, even though I’m pretty sure I’m only a few years your senior.

Ladies, I’m here to tell you I get you. Hell, in other situations I probably was you. But, because you were too absorbed in Snapchatting parts of the concert, texting whoever the hell you were texting, and scrolling through goddamned Pinterest, let me give you a brief rundown of what you missed….

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This is Something

This is Something

You know when you're in a situation that is somewhat unremarkable, but then there's a really heady, rich, awake moment? Where you were just kind of rolling along, half-aware, and something changes to make you go goddamn, this IS something! Where all of a sudden your eyes and ears come into electric focus and everything seems 10x sharper, slower, richer? Where you feel a deep, earthy connection to living that makes you think "my God, am I just walking through my life asleep most of the time?"

I had one such moment recently at a lovely party which included listening to tracks from various LPs selected by party guests. The somewhat inebriated group gathered for the "serious listening" part of the evening, and selection after selection delighted the little audience. Classic pop and rock mostly, including some obscure tracks that were particularly well-received. Throughout, I was impressed by the level of attention the crowd held. Chatter continued at a minimum, the occasional chorus was sung along to, and a couple of drinks were spilled (ok, that was me, whatever...), but overall, for a group of intoxicated 30- to 60-year-olds who were in the middle of a party, it was quite impressive to see such a high level of focus for the simple activity of music listening.

But then there was a real "holy shit I'm alive and this is amazing" moment….

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