Active Listening

Active Listening

Have you ever had a whole conversation with someone while you were scrolling Instagram, only to realize that you have no idea what they said?

My husband Ryan jokingly (okay, half jokingly) uses this as an excuse if he’s forgotten to tell me something. “Oh,” he’ll say, “I told you that… you must have been on Instagram.”

Truth of the matter is, we’ve all become really good at passive listening – letting sounds enter our ears without following and translating them into meaning. But that means that, correspondingly, we aren’t as good at active listening as perhaps we once were. And that means it can be really difficult for us to enjoy classical music.

But fear not – you already know how to engage your active listening muscles. You just don’t know that you know. (But I know that you don’t know that you know… wait, wasn’t this an episode of Friends?)

Nevermind. Onward!

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How to Become a Ballet Fan For Free

How to Become a Ballet Fan For Free

Fine arts organizations are all competing for your dollars. Did you know that?

Perhaps you, like many people all over the world, think of museums, theatre companies, and symphony orchestras as charities (which, technically, they are), and so you perceive going to visit them as a bit of an act of charity. Maybe you think of it as a donation to an organization that you know is good for your community/the world/mankind, which happens to come with an opportunity to see some cool shit.

Well my friend – you future connoisseur of the arts, you! – prepare to be wooed. Because these organizations are marketers, just like any purveyor of goods or services, and you should be super stoked about that, because it means free stuff.

Lots of free stuff…

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What You Can Learn from the Daily Routines of Artists

What You Can Learn from the Daily Routines of Artists

When I read that Obama wore the same suit every day during his presidency because people have limited decision-making ability and he wanted to retain that one extra daily decision in his quota – well, I was hooked on what I like to call “pre-decisions.” There are few things I enjoy more than setting a gentle constraint on my own life that saves me decisions, time, and stress. This is why I capsule wardrobe, bullet journal, and cook a limited number of things for dinner (ok that last one is a lie, but it makes me sound a lot smarter to suck at cooking for a lofty reason).

Perhaps the ultimate pre-decision one can make is the default daily routine – another obsession of mine. Daily defaults allow us to do two critical things: make sure we fit every activity that we want into our day, and also avoid making lots of little decisions throughout the day about whether or not we’re going to go through with each thing.

For artists, daily routines are absolutely critical, and most revolve around sacred, uninterrupted work time. Whether it’s visual artists, dancers, or musicians, most artists need significant chunks of solitude through their day to do a couple of essential tasks…

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